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 We can't tell who's got HIV, the virus that can
lead to AIDS
You or your partner may have this virus and not
know it. You can look and feel perfectly well but still pass the virus on.
Whether we are young or old, local or mat
salleh, straight, gay or bisexual, slut, virgin, camp, butch, kakak, abang
or nyah - when we have sex, it should always be SAFER SEX.
Safer Sex
Means preventing blood or sperm from one person
getting into the body of another.
Safer Sex
Means you care for yourself and your partner.
Sex is more fun and enjoyable when it's safe.
Kissing
Kissing or deep (French) kissing is safe.
Sucking
Oral sex or cock sucking (fellatio) is okay but
'cumming' in the mouth is dangerous.
Fucking
The main way we can get or give HIV is by
fucking (anal intercourse) or being fucked with out condom.
Pulling out before 'cumming' is not safe. Use a
condom from start to finish.
Wear a condom every time you fuck. Use it with a
water-based lubricants like KY gel. DO NOT use oil-based lubricants (like
hair cream and hand lotion) as they weaken and damage the condom.
Finger Fucking
Putting a finger into your partner's arse is
safe, but don't put the same finger into yourself. Always keep your nails
short and smooth. Use lubricants.
Fist Fucking
Use lots of lubricant. Make sure that finger
nails are short and clean. Remove all rings. Do not fuck after fisting, even
with condom.
Arse Licking
Licking his arse (rimming) is safe. But if the
arse is not clean, you may get other STDs (sexually transmitted diseases).
Arse Play
Using sex toys like vibrators or dildos or even
putting vegetables, fruits or ice cubes up his arse is safe. However, don't
share the use of the same items.
We can be tempted to have unsafe sex. Especially
when we are drunk, 'high' or too excited. Maybe we're in love or unhappy.
Let's be prepared for such situations.
Talk to your partner about SAFER SEX. Why be
shy? We're talking about fun and good sex. Remember - insist on a condom.
It's our right. We shouldn't have any sex that we're not happy with. If
you are not sure, say 'No.'
If you've had unsafe sex, try to think how you
can prevent it happening again. Talk about it.
Condoms
Condoms can be fun! They are available in
different colours and flavours. Buy a lot to avoid running out...
If you're not used to wearing condoms, practise
masturbating with one. Many of us who have got used to condoms now enjoy
using them.
Use a new condom every time. Check the expiry
date.
Instructions How to use Condoms
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Open the pack carefully so as not tear the
condom. |
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Pinch the air out of the tip of the condom
and roll it all the way down the hard cock. Smooth out any air bubbles.
For extra sensitivity, you might want to dab a bit of water-based
lubricant on the tip of the cock before you put the condom on.
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Rub lots of lubricant all over the condom
and put lots of it in the arse for smoother fucking.
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After 'cumming', hold onto the base of the
condom and pull out gently while the cock is still hard. Dispose of
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We can also...
There are many other sexual activities that
carry no risk of HIV transmission. Use your imagination. Talk about it.
Explore...
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Create an erotic atmosphere with candlelight
and soft music. Kiss him all over. Touch his body. Rub cock to cock.
Have safe sex in front of mirrors. Watch each other masturbate. |
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Tell each other your fantasies. Talk dirty!
Dress up! Act out an erotic striptease! |
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Role playing can be fun - master and slave,
sailor meets college kid...You get the picture? |
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Suck on his fingers or toes. Lick his
armpits. Nibble his nipples. Play with his balls. Smear jam or ice cream
all over him. Lick it off! |
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Massage his body. Why not use perfumed oils?
(Make sure that the oil doesn't get onto condoms.) |
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Get rough. Tie him up. Slap his bum.
Playfully pinch him all over. Rub your bodies together (frottage). Fuck
him between the thighs. |
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